I may or may not be an expert wall builder.
I throw up walls like nobody’s business.
It’s easy.
Walls offer protection and comfort…to keep others from hurting me…to keep myself safe.
I was amazed at how quickly I was able to throw up a wall the other day when I got scared during a conversation…it was a strong wall…with an electric fence around it.
I lashed out. Said hurtful things…hurt someone’s feelings.
I recognized this…and the hurt in the other person’s eyes and tore my wall right back down.
It was in this moment that I realized that I’m such an expert…and I don’t like it. See, those walls have served me well in the past…I became an expert at putting them up because at times I had to…there were times when I didn’t set boundaries with people that I should have and in turn I got really hurt…so I practiced my wall building skills and began building.
Don’t get me wrong…BOUNDARIES are healthy…but walls…not so much.
“In short, boundaries are not walls. The Bible does not say that we are to be “walled off” from others; in fact, it says that we are to be “one” with them (John 17:11). We are to be in community with them. But in every community, all members have their own space and property. The important thing is that property lines be permeable enough to allow passing and strong enough to keep out danger.”
-excerpt from Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend
I want my life to be a construction zone…but not one filled with throwing up walls in record time…
…I want it to be a construction zone filled with demolition of those walls…and building up my faith…in others…and in the Lord. In the process, some healthy boundary setting will inevitibly take place…
I’m definitely a work in progress…watch out…hopefully in a good way! 
